In order to do well in the world, we need to make our connections. These are people, activities, groups, or places that we have a special relationship with and thus are more important to us than others. They might be on the same wavelength with us, or give us what we need, or take us to the next step in our lives. They help us get a job, learn a skill, or introduce us to new ways of doing things. They can help us in very mundane ways or be so wonderful they are like God intervening to help us in the world.
We cannot succeed just through hard work and belief in our dreams. If we want a good life, we need to do well with these special relationships. This book offers many practical aids to recognize your connections and have a better relationship with them.
Making your connections and doing well with them is also a spiritual practice. You do better with them if you get out of your ego and understand your temporary intertwinedness or interconnectedness with them. When you have trouble with them, you also do better if you learn from the lessons they are revealing to you.
There are five sections to this website.
The first section, labeled “Basic Concepts,” discusses the two most basic ideas of the book. The first chapter, labeled “Connections,” introduces the idea of connections. The second chapter, labeled “Current of the River of your Life,” introduces the idea of a flow or current to the river of your life. Rather than getting everything that you desire or want, you have to do the best you can within the current or flow or your life.
The second section, labeled “Recognizing Connections,” tells how to use various human faculties like your mind, intuition, or feelings to recognize your connections when you meet them. The first chapter, labeled “Goal-Oriented Thinking” describes how to make it more likely to do well with your connections by using goal-oriented thinking or reflection. The second chapter discusses the proper relationship of goal-oriented thinking and feelings. The third chapter, not yet written, is about intuition, feelings or hunches. The fourth chapter, labeled “Extrasensory Intuition,” is about extrasensory intuition, or intuition that seems to know things beyond sensory perception. The fifth chapter, not yet written, is about using your bodily feelings, synchronicities or following your bliss to meet your connections. The sixth chapter is about directives from a spiritual power or God to do things. The seventh chapter, not yet fully written, is about ways to discern if an intuition or divine directive is a true one or not.
The third section, labeled “Fixing Connections,” discusses various practical ways to deal with relationships you have messed up. The first chapter discusses the basic insight that whenever we are in a relationship, there is an unconscious energy exchange. This means that in an unconscious way a person helps bring about every relationship they have, no matter how negative the relationship is. This chapter discusses the similarities and differences between this view and the Indian concept of karma. It also discusses the various objections to this outlook. The second chapter introduces the idea that people you find bothersome are often a reflection of your negative qualities. So if a selfish, manipulative person is bothering you, you most likely share these same qualities. The third chapter discusses how to learn from people’s comments about how you need to change. The fourth chapter discusses how to look at the origin of a problem for important insights into solving the problem. The fifth chapter shows how to learn important lessons from little but bothersome things going on in your life. These things seem unrelated to your bigger problems, but they can actually provide major clues about how to deal with them.
The fourth section, labeled “Important Connections” deals with some of the most important connections people have. The first chapter labeled “Romantic Relationships” gives many practical tips about how to deal with romantic relationships and make it more likely you will find true love. The second chapter, not yet written, deals with money. The third chapter, not yet written, deals with relating to family members—parents, spouses and children. The fourth chapter, not yet written, deals with effective political and social change.
The fifth section, labeled “Common Situations and Questions,” deals with common situations people find themselves in. The first chapter, not yet fully written, talks about how to make decisions. The second chapter, not yet fully written, deals with the question of whether everyone has a soul mate. The third chapter, not yet written, discusses the relationship of my philosophy to other philosophies and religions such as Buddhism, Taoism, Stoicism, New Age thought and evangelical Christianity.
After this book is written, I am hoping to get it published. It would be helpful if you tell me any questions you may have or any parts that you have found helpful. If you have sections that you do not understand or you think are stupid or misguided, I would very much appreciate if you tell me. It is much better to hear these comments now, when I can easily change things, then later, after I have published a book. I will reflectively consider your concerns and, if warranted, I will change things to incorporate your concerns into the book. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please put “About Connections,” into the subject heading of the email.
This book was written by Joseph Waligore with the help of Michelle Stage. Joseph teaches philosophy and religious studies at the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. More information about him can be found at his MySpace profile or his Facebook profile. Michelle works in a bank in St. Paul, Minnesota as a learning consultant and in a Minneapolis night club as a dominatrix.
This website is one of four websites I have. Another one, www.followingtheflow.com is for spiritually oriented people and discusses very similar ideas from a more spiritually oriented perspective. Another one, www.josephwaligore.com is for academically or intellectually oriented people. It has my writings about spiritual philosophies such as Stoicism, Socrates, the Deists, the Enlightenment period, and the rise of modern science. Another one, www.spiritualcritiques.com, has critiques of many popular spiritual teachers and spiritual teachings. It looks at teachers like Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Ken Wilber, and Pema Chodron. It also looks at teachings like “All is One,” “The Hundredth Monkey,” and “If it Rings True, it is True.”
There is a Facebook group called Flowing. People interested in meeting other people who are interested in these ideas and/or participating in discussions about these ideas are invited to join the group.
Many people reach this site through keyword advertisements. It might be of interest that Joseph got the money for these ads through his day trading profits.